Happy New year my friends!. 2013 was a busy year, and I found myself writing less than what I wanted to or even planned to. It was not for a lack of ideas, simply a lack of time, as I juggled all my different roles at home and at the office. I hope to do better this year.
As I’ve watched my kids grow this past year, watched their interactions with others, read the news and watched their idols on TV, I’ve thought a lot about this generation which comes across as being very materialistic, very entitled and very selfish (disguised as independence). Unfortunately I realize that our culture encourages our kids to think of themselves in this regard with the constant message, that they are very important and it’s all about them.
If you don’t believe me, look at your kids christmas requests. Most of them were for electronics or toys, all preceded with the word “Me” or ‘I”. How many of those items were for somebody else, especially somebody needy that cannot reciprocate the gesture?
But I’ve also thought long and hard about the part we as the parents are playing in nudging them in this direction. I’m not thrilled by some of the conclusions I’m making, and I pray I’m wrong on some of them. I plan to explore some of this ideas in the near future.
As they grow and change daily, I’m appreciating more and more, just how tough the parenting job is, and I can’t help but wonder about the challenges ahead. But I know that outsourcing the job or taking a sabbatical to a far, far away land is not an option (even though it’s so tempting at times) and as parents we have to keep teaching our kids right from wrong, pushing through the difficult times ahead, teaching them to not be “Those kids”. We cannot afford to slacken even for one minute, regardless of how tired we are, or how much they and the rest of the world push back.
I’ll have to constantly remind myself and the kids, that I’m the parent, and there are things they need to do, places they need to go to because, I their parent have asked that of them, and it has nothing to do with what they want or don’t want to do. Off course I have to worry about what their friends are telling them, or what their movie and TV idols suggest they do, not to mention all the parenting gurus who are recommending that we treat them as “little adults” and give them their due.
I expect the phrase “Because I said so” to become my new mantra in the new year. I suspect though, that I’ll have to work very hard to silence the small voice that will be niggling at the back of my mind, questioning some of this decisions, reminding me how expensive it is to pay for therapy to fix parenting mistakes.
As we start the new year, I wonder if am setting myself up for failure or for blazing glory?